The Great Balancing Act

I created this blog, I don't know how long ago. I decided I'd try out a blog when I had something to say. Well, it's been months and now, I finally have something I feel is worth sharing!

I read a Christian devotional book for Moms. Today's devotion inspired me to write in my blog. Here it is:

On the Back Burner

"God has given gifts to each of you from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Manage them well so that God's generosity can flow through you." 1 Peter 4:10

"I used to do oil painting, but I have put that on the back burner since I had children," my friend said with a sigh.
When you become a mother, bring all you are to it - bring your art and music, bring your love of nature and your favorite football team. You will need all of these things to build a happy, whole child.
"Sure," says the new mommy, "but, when? I barely have time to brush my teeth."
Well, a baby must sleep sometime. Keep a corner of the bedroom as "Mommy's space." An easel would fit there, or a few great books. A journal beside the baby's calendar will let you record how you are growing along with how she is growing. Designate Thursdays as sandwich night and use the saved cooking time to pursue your soul. Give the toddler a tiny paintbrush, or the teen a piece of sheet music and pursue creativity together.

Our children are not interruptions; they are traveling companions to share the richness of God's world with us.

-Karla Doyle

I can't begin to tell you how many things I have put on the back burner since becoming a Mom. The family scrapbook I started before I had children....let's see....I'm up to year 4 of that one. Not bad, you may think. Well, considering I've been married for going on 13 years and can't even begin to fill in the blanks with the milestones, you can see my frustration. I am half way through a scrapbook of a 2 week European vacation my husband and I took....in 1999. My first born.....I haven't even completed his first year's scrapbook and he's now 8. Don't even get me started about my other 2 children's scrapbooks. Luckily, I have the pictures, I just have to make the time to put them in their scrapbooks. I did get the chance to finish a frog shaped napping quilt for my then preschool age son. I was able to give it to him when he was 5 years old...much too old for naps. I started on my second son's Curious George quilt while I was pregnant with him. He's now 5 years old and I still haven't finished it. I do have the topper completed. I have bought a storybook pillow I plan to make for my 2 year old daughter. It's still in the packaging.

I don't know how some Moms do it. How do Moms have time to do the things they love while taking great care of their children? I used to think that any interests that I had needed to be put on the back burner in favor of my children's interests: swimming, soccer, baseball, scouts. I'll have time when they're older to do these things, I'd say to myself. Well, guess what? They are getting older and my back burner just keeps getting filled.

I mentioned to my husband (ok, probably more like complained) that I really don't have a space of my own. So, bless his heart, he took it upon himself to help me create a space of my own in the house. We got rid of the junk piling up (mostly out-of-date children's clothing) and he took down my old craft table from the attic and dusted it off. It's now in it's own space in our bedroom. Of course I have a humidifier on it. But I do also have picture frames on it...a reminder of yet another craft I've put on the back burner.

This devotion reminded me that my children need to grow up seeing their Mom as a person....with interests and passions for things outside of them. They need to grow up remembering how well-rounded I was and how fulfilling hobbies and other interests can be. Only then can they really learn to be complete, well-rounded people with interests they will be able to share with their children. Perhaps today's the day I start cleaning off my back burner....